Dating Delilah

The longer I stay in Japan, the more I could understand more about life, about myself and about relationships.

God is a GREAT. HE put me here for reasons. Eventhough I do not know what, but I started to realized who I really are, and what I am being called to Japan for.

These days, I realized the importance of being patience. Being patience to wait upon God's gift for me. God had put something that being keep stirring up in my heart since I came here last October. HE put marriage in my mind. To tell the truth, that is the last thing I would want to do in my life, BUT HE put marriage in my heart and give me the urge to search for my soul mate, which HE already decided for me.

So, what I should do? Pray to God? You bet, but that doesn't stop there. I have done my own searching and have my own preference of girls, and thought God could bless those relationship. But in the end, all end up in dissapointment. Not even one could fit the image of what God is going to give to me.

Just a coincidence ( Maybe ), my church friend gave me a book called Dating Delilah. It is a very powerful book by Pastor Judah Smith. It gives me all I should know about purity and about how to find the girl that God arrange for you.

One part I am very fascinated about is the eight boundaries that we should follow in order to find the right girl to walk with us in our journey for God.

First is No sex before marriage. As it is written, we should not have sex with anyone before marriage, means before we find the right one. The reason is that sex is about both person would have spiritual connection when having sex. If it is not the right person, wouldn't that be a waste? We should give our whole to the one and only person who are destined for our life.

Second is No dating unbelievers. This may sound very cruel. All it is saying is that we as christian that following God, should find another person who could walk the same path to focus on God rather than someone who is not compatible and only focus on worldly things.

Third is Homesexual is a sin. This is funny. But it is true. We should not compromise with the fact that homosexual IS a sin. How can man love a man and vice versa. God created us male and female, so that we could enjoy each other's company.

Fourth is No sexual touching. This is an interesting fact. Before marriage, we shouldn't have touching of anywhere near body parts that could arouse sexual feeling or so. It is just the same as we commit adultery because we are thinking of it as well.

Fifth is Treat one another as Brother and Sister. I love this boundary. It started to gets me back in track in my life to search for my soul mate. Incredible isn't it. When we start to look for soul mate, we would start to look around to find the right person in our life. And every girl become our target, and then we begin to eliminate each one of them as time goes. Well, this is not the way. God tells us that we should treat one another as brother and sister in christ. Because marriage starts with friendships and communication. So start being friends with people. Start talking to people. STOP treating everyone as potential soul mate and try to chase to see whether could success or not.

Six is interesting. It wrote as wear appropriate clothes. Hmm, it is an interesting fact that these days fashion is important in our life. But what this boundary meant is that, where do you want people to look at you when they first see you. For guys maybe not that important but it is important for girls to becareful of their clothing and their intention of their clothing.

Seven is No lustful looks. Our eyes are full of light and pure. So why use it to watch pornography or see pornography magazines? Another thing is that we should not look at girls with lustful eyes. It is also one way to commit adultery. So becareful what you do with the eyes. Thinking lust also a way to sin.

Last but not least Avoid immoral friends. At first, I thought this is abit radical. But as I read it, I realized the meaning of this boundary. As christian, it is all right for us to be friends with non-christian because they do not know what is right or wrong. We could help them and teach them. But immoral friends are refer to those christians, that still compromise with sexual things and those sin issues.

Therefore, as long as we live according to these 8 boundaries, we could find the right person that belong to us. God always create a pair when HE created us. See the birds in the skies. God always give them a pair so why couldn't HE provide us with soul mate if we are MORE PRECIOUS than those animals.

So, Do it the right way and we would find the person that truly belong to us.

God bless everyone. Have a great week ahead.